Now, let’s be clear that dating is a gamble AND sometimes we are gonna win some and other times we are gonna lose and hopefully nobody gets hurt in the process. I’d like to believe that on Bumble or in life, people who are dating are intending to date a little, and then hopefully they can meet someone with whom they have this undeniable chemistry with and they decide to move to a relationship together. That’s the plan for some people. Other people will date some ppl that they like simultaneously and I think that’s perfectly acceptable as long as everyone knows about it. There doesn’t need to be overlap nor any hard feelings because, I mean, we dating and I can really like him, him and him equally and it be all good. Now, sometimes there may be an imbalance of who likes who more…yikes.
This post is about someone who was mad at me because I told them I wasn’t gonna delete my Bumble after our ONLY date. He was blown away by our time together and while I had a ton of fun as well, I also like a few other people and I never signed a contract that said I would delete my dating profile because a date went well. Actually, more often than not, my dates do go really well and I generally want to see those people again, and again, but I’m never sure when I’m gonna see them again AND I’m cool with that. Let’s text, let’s call and let’s make a plan but between that time, I may have a few more dates AND that’s okay. He didn’t understand why I had to have more dates if our date was great and we were going to continue to see each other. And my answer is because I like more than one of y’all at the same time AND I like you, and him and him and I want to date all of you. The fuck is the problem, sir? Polyamory is a thing people. Get on the train, it is fun and if you’re being safe, then it’s all good. I’m going to be honest about my dating life and if you don’t like it, let us part ways. But my body, lips, vagina is not open for colonization and conquering. You cannot plant your flag or pee on me and then think you’re marking me with your scent. Darling, you’re in a rotation of men I like, deal with it, or don’t. Feel me?
I’m flattered that after one date you think you should delete your Bumble. I think though, it’s a bit premature. There’s a lot of fine ass chicks out here and for the demographic I’m dating, trying to settle down after coming out of a sexless and loveless marriage is really not the move. Take your time, date, visit with several vaginas, have conversations, do different things with different people and explore your single life. I may occur as wife material, and sure, I am EXCEPT for the part where I’m not trying to be no one’s wife but I’ll be a bae/lover/babygirl to like three of y’all. Be okay with being in the rotation, we will have so much fun together and don’t worry about the other guys. Do you, be my boo when we are together and things will be okay. The moment you get caught up in possession and conquering is when you stress yourself out and you’ll lose. Worry about yourself and we going to be okay.
I think some men start to lose their shit when you refuse to sweat them and put them on a rotation. Other men who get and love Polyamory get it, and are relieved when I explain my stance to them. I genuinely like the guys in my rotation. Each of them is someone I’d have as a LTR and I want that eventually. I’ve always said three is the magic number. Costco sells condoms, so safety isn’t going to be an issue and as far as emotions go, I am really crushing on each of the three. They are all hot, sexy, different ages, different personalities, and they each treat me wonderfully. Why would I choose? I should never have to choose. I’m not trying to marry any of them, but I want to stay intimate with three of them and continue building together. There’s no reason for any overlap at any time, and if there is, let’s hope it goes well. Women have to manage being in a rotation whether they know it or not, often and no one bats an eyelash. Men…some men think its vile and outrageous. Welp, monogamy is vile and outrageous to me, so there’s that. You can have me in sexy ways, intellectual ways, emotional ways, mental ways and all the ways that are empowering. But you cannot nor will not have me to yourself, you will not conquer me, you will not demand nor ask me to commit only to you, because I’ll say no and your insistence will annoy me and get you booted from the rotation. I like you. We vibe. I’m into you. That’s all you need. Your need to conquer and colonize my pussy is your issue alone. Handle yourself.
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