Short guys are mad that most ladies don’t want to date them, big girls are mad because they are often excluded, skinny girls are mad because some guys want thick girls, skinny dudes are pissed because girls want buff guys and list goes on forever. People, listen you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea and I feel like that’s okay. Everyone ain’t for everybody and you reading this know very well you have preferences too, and I am sure you do not want to be made wrong for liking what you like. I would say the only preference I think is fucked up, are the preferences regarding race. Choosing not to date an entire race of people seems a bit narrow-minded, but I think people can do whatever they want. I am not here to judge, because I have my own biases and hang-ups based on valid reasons in my eyes.
All that said, I have what I prefer, and who I end up dating once I broaden the margins of what I am desiring. I prefer my man to be at the very minimum of 5’10”, I am 5’8″…I mean come on, that’s a fair preference!!!! However, I have dated shorter than my minimum and guess what? He was incredible. I prefer beards, there is something sexy about a man with a goatee, or a beard. It is just a welcomed addition to a handsome man’s face and I love it. Have I dated a man with no beards? I sure have and it was just fine. With all that said, I think men can choose to date women based on pants size, dress size, bra size, height, weight, just as much as women have their preferences. Dating means different things to different people and I believe people should be free to look for whatever they think will satisfy their desires.
What have I learned about dating preferences for myself? They are foolish and hold no merit whatsoever. I have come to realize the preferences that truly matter, are the person’s fundamental principles. Are they a good human being? Are they kind? Generous? Patient? Family oriented? Do they speak up in situations where a clear injustice is taking place? Are they animal lovers? I mean there are simple nuances that make a person who they are, and those things have to align or at least work with mine. You could be 6’2 and look like Idris Elba, but if you support bigotry, then you can keep the fuck away from me. I don’t care if you look like Chris Evans, Bradley Cooper or Jesse Willams, if your personal politics fuck with someone else’s ability to live freely then we are not a match. I am a free spirit who believes in connecting with other free spirits.
I like men who will support my quest to find all the IPAs that my heart desires. I prefer a man who will drive me, and pick me up and take me home because I don’t drive. I prefer men who won’t let me talk to them in any old way because it is a turn-off. I prefer dominant men who do not need to assert dominance aggressively. I have many particular sets of nuances and preferences that are unique to me, and I will align with the person who I am supposed to based on these preferences, and some traits I may not even know I like. Dating is the right amount of clicks, and going with the flow. We should all be able to do that freely without someone making us wrong for our preferences. Live and let live.